Self love is the regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.
There is a large amount of confusion around the act of self love. Does loving myself make me conceited? How do I practice loving myself? The main question I had when it comes to self love is “How in the world do I begin to love myself when I’ve spent 26 years doing the opposite?”
In my eyes, self love is the opposite of being conceited. When you love yourself, you are also very self aware. You acknowledge when you are wrong, you admit to your mistakes and you make a habit of fixing them. Self love doesn’t mean you think you’re the best all the time. It simply means that you are putting your own well being and happiness first. My favorite definition of self love is “Self love is the belief you hold that you are a valuable and worthy person. An example of self love is when you have a positive view of yourself and are confident in yourself and your place in the world.”
How Do I Begin the Journey to Self Love?
The journey to self love starts in baby steps. I tried to start out with a bang, but I always fell flat on my face. It is just like New Years Resolutions I talked about in my last post. When I try to do everything all at once, I get let down and disappointed when I fall short. It’s like trying to eat clean 100% of the time. When you splurge on a brownie, it feels like you let yourself down. A more realistic goal would be to eat clean 80% of the time. Instead of repeating the same mistake, this time I have tried to start the self love journey with baby steps. An example of my baby steps is I’m starting by taking one bath a week. I know it’s not a large goal, but it’s getting me in the right direction. I know if I said to start loving myself, I’m going to take 3 vitamins every day, eat clean, go to the gym 4 days a week, meditate for 20 minutes every day and say 10 positive affirmations, it wouldn’t work. Most of us do best when we build one habit at a time, going at a slow but steady pace. Once you do well at taking one bath once a week, then you could add in vitamins or positive affirmations next. Go at your own pace! Do what works best for you, not what might work for other people. You begin the journey to self love by STARTING! Even one act of self love a week has made a big difference in my life.
How Do I Practice Self Love?
How you practice self love is unique and personal to you. I believe that there is no wrong or right way to participate in self love, as long as it feels good to you. Self love is ultimately all about making yourself happy. There are countless ways out to there to practice self love. Part of my journey has been finding the activities that increase my happiness and make a difference in my life. It’s a part of the self discovery process. What works best for you? Some of the ways that have worked for me the best are listed below:
The most important part of the self love journey is getting started. You don’t have to be perfect at it. Self love is an endless journey! Make a commitment to yourself today to start putting yourself first and being a little kinder to yourself. You deserve it!